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8 thoughts on “About”

  1. Beatriz Flores said:

    Hello,

    I’m a Casting Producer with a Major TV Network is currently conducting a Nationwide search for especially Separated/Estranged from parents over the age of 18 who currently are in “dire need” do to extreme current grave circumstances/want to make amends.

    Do you have a compelling story? We want to help in facilitating this journey.

    Please spread the word and share the flyer attached. If you have any questions or concerns please feel free to contact me anytime.

    Major TV Network wants to help Adoptees in their search.

    Sincerely,
    Beatriz Flores
    beatriz.flores@firecrackerfilms.com
    818.432.8294

    • Perhaps this will be of interest to one of my readers. As for me, I write anonymously for a reason. Airing my issues on TV would only make things worse.

      Note: No flyer was attached & therefore not shared here.

  2. Beatriz Flores said:

    If you or anyone you know might be interested please refer them to me. Thanks. beatriz.flores@firecrackerfilms.com 818.432-8294

  3. Michele said:

    Even if you never write another blog post, I deeply appreciate your sharing your story and can relate to it after becoming recently estranged from both my parents and my only sibling (a brother). Reading your posts has made me feel SANE again. Thank you and Godspeed.

    • Thank you, Michele. Writing about this tragic chapter in my life is how I keep my sanity & come to terms with my estrangement from my siblings. I’m glad my post helped you. I wish you the best in coping with the difficulty of estrangement.

  4. Katie Burnetts said:

    please email me if you and your sibling no longer speak owing to a wealth divide .

    • Hi Katie ~ My sibling estrangement has nothing to do with a wealth divide. Although I strongly suspect the death of my mother in the future may cause this between my two siblings. I’ve already decided that whatever my mother leaves me within her own power (e.g., her will)​ is more than enough. I’m walking away from the rest and letting my two siblings claw it out. There’s nothing that my parents have that is worth any more damage to our relationship. I can take care of myself and don’t feel my parents owe me anything. Best Wishes!

    • Hi Katie,
      While my sister and I are not estranged solely due to wealth, it is a part of it. See, in our 20’s I was financially well off and took care of my sister. I willingly paid for her rent, cell phone, food, occasional vacations, etc. since she was struggling. Then in our late 20’s she got married to a guy who wasn’t financially rich but was really good at managing his money (so he was never broke and always had an emergency fund). It was shortly after she married him that things changed financially. I decided to quit my job and go back to school but had to drop out due to severe illness and multiple surgeries. Needless to say between school and health issues I went broke pretty quick. But sh*t really hit the fan in our early 30’s because my health issues continued (along with my financial issues) while my sister began her success (with $140,000 contracts back to back sometimes, not including her husband’s income). For me the breaking point was her saying “I really wanna go out and eat”, to which I would reply “I can’t afford to but if you’re paying I’ll join or I can just keep you company and have water”. She would say “Okay, I got this” and tell me to get whatever I want. I didn’t abuse this- I don’t drink or eat meat- so I would order a side salad and water or whatever. When the bill would come she would then ask me how much I can contribute. Now, I don’t have a problem with the question but with the timing of the question. If I would have known she expected me to pitch something in I would have just had water or not gone at all. But she did this over and over and I was stupid enough to keep falling for it. When I voiced my concern with this she responded saying “we are in our 30’s so we shouldn’t be financially responsible for each other anymore”. I was flabbergasted and speechless. She made it sound like I was asking her to pay my rent, my health insurance, my car payment, etc rather than pay for a meal SHE wanted to have. I was always upfront with her when I couldn’t afford to go out but she always waited till the bill would come to tell me what her real intention was. Again, this wasn’t the only issue we had. But I felt used and abused here too. If she can’t be fair and tell me her intention up front then I just can’t go out with her any more. This of course led to us hanging out less and less since I couldn’t afford what she wanted to do and the free/inexpensive things I could do were not of interest to her. Financial disparity wasn’t the main cause of our estrangement but it was a part of it. I was told repeatedly in my 20’s by those that knew us I shouldn’t be spending my money on her, that she was using me. But at the time I didn’t care. I felt our relationship was good because I made sure she didn’t have to worry. So when our roles were reversed and she couldn’t even pay for a meal that she said she would pay for… I had to draw the line. It was proof I’d been used and now that she has money she can’t hang out with me unless I have money too. By the looks of it I probably won’t have money again anytime soon- I need at least another 4-7 surgeries. You combine the lack of support, the abuse, and the financial issues and we ended up with a recipe for estrangement. It sucks, I hate it… But for my own mental, emotional, and financial health I just cannot have her in my life. Maybe that will change in the future, I don’t know. We’ll see….

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