During the holidays my brother was the ringleader of a public smear campaign against me on social media. Putting on his badge of honor, he climbed on his high, lofty perch & boasted how he always kept contact with my parents while serving our country for 20 years without the convenience of today’s technology. On his self-appointed podium he declared the reason for his post was that in his humble opinion parents should be contacted at least during the holidays. Using his wall as a graffitied bathroom stall, he criticized my inability to contact my mother on Thanksgiving. He even managed to recruit comments from others, including my sister, who chime in with support of the social ostracism and along with a <3.
I discovered the bull’s-eye on my back from a relative who sent me an email concerning my brother’s public shaming & playing on the sympathies of others. From his soapbox, my brother reprimanded me & assassinating my character by claiming that I was uncompassionate, selfish, & cold-hearted for not contacting my mother. In addition, he waged war by proclaiming that any excuse I offered was merely a lie made up to make me feel better & reinforce my misguided belief of superiority. Emotionally hijacked, he ended saying if I had a problem with his post I should be an adult & take it up with him rather than cry to mommy – if I dare!
My brother’s ill-spoken words were unfair & unjustified. Honestly, I don’t believe that most of those who liked or commented on his long winded rant even read it thoroughly. Perhaps if they had or weren’t influenced by misinformation & conjecture, they wouldn’t feel his post was well spoken. His smoke screen wrath failed to take in account that I texted my mother the day before Thanksgiving asking when would be a good time to call & received no response. Also, he conveniently didn’t mention that my mother was visiting my sister, where cell phone service is poor. In fact, I tried calling several times, was unable to leave a voice mail, & finally reached her that weekend. As for the accusations & misplace sympathy of those claiming I used the wrong number or could have used a land line, this is ridiculous. My mother’s cell phone number has been programmed in my phone for years & I don’t have a land line.
My siblings virtually amputated me from their lives on Facebook, so they feel compelled to showcase their post publicly when attacking me. Their attempt to bait me did not work. I took the high road & chose not to address their framing game & defuse their derogatory remarks. I wasn’t willing to throw gasoline in the fire by responding to their spiteful, verbal assault. Why fan the flames? Lashing out in retaliation would serve no purpose or be conducive to rapproachment. This blog is my only public rebuttal. Social media should be an open venue for positive communication with family, not manifest inappropriate, hateful & malicious comments meant to hurt, harass & abuse others.
P.S. Supposedly my sister was against Facebook bashing & felt that family issues should be for immediate family. Facebook just adds a new dimensions to our estrangement.